Many people often ask: why are my relationships very short? I have many friends who had lots of relationships, but they all lasted less than a year, some even less than a half of year. Why? Well, the reasons may vary, but the answers are the same. Here are several tips to maintain a date relationship.
Give each other some free space
Everyone yearns for freedom, especially boys. They don't want to be controlled by anyone. Many girls like to make deadly serial calls to their boyfriends. As long as the boyfriend is not around, they would keep calling and sending messages. This will only make the boys feel like they are imprisoned prisoners and give them an urge to escape. You should leave appropriate space, both physically and mentally, to each other. You don't need to know his/her everything and he/she doesn't need to report to you like a kid reporting to parent about his/her whereabouts.
Create a little romance
Loving romance is the nature of women. They like surprises and dreams. Therefore, if you want to win a girl's heart over, just use this knowledge and give them romantic moments. It can be a sudden appearance at her doorstep, or a little present out of her expectation. Use your imagination. Whether you want adult dating or a serious relationship, it can't hurt to give her a little romance.
Reply her messages timely
Just think, if you ask someone a question, but you are not answered timely. What do you think? How do you feel? You must feel very impatient and maybe a little angry, right? Similarly, if a girl sends you message, but you don't reply in time, how does she feel? Not good, huh? Hence, if you see her message, reply in time. If you missed it, explain the reason. This is the right way to treat anyone, not just your girlfriend. This is the basic courtesy. It's politeness and respect. It's also the right behavior of a gentleman.
More comfort, less complaint
Everyone will encounter setbacks and feel frustrated. You might think, I don't hear other people talking about how often they had such troubles in their life. Well, that's mainly because they don't complain as much as you do. Learn to digest these negative feelings inside without letting them out and influence other people. If you are in a relationship, whether it's a casual dating or a serious one, one of the most vital tips to maintain such relationship is to express positive feedbacks. For example, compliment, laugh, flirt and many other positive things and activities. Complain less. Complaint is one of the most useless acts. It can't solve anything, but to spread the negative atmosphere. The more often you complain, the more negative the atmosphere will be around you. In the long run, less people will be around you. This rule also adopts to families and friends.
So here are four rules and tips to help you maintain a relationship, also four keys to live a more positive and happier life. Go practice and see if they are true.
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